If you have a devotion to Our Lady of Mount Carmel, St. Teresa of Avila, St. John of the Cross, St. Theresa of Lisieux or some other Discalced Carmelite Saint, and if you feel a call to a contemplative prayer life while still living in the world according to your state in life, perhaps you have a vocation to the Secular (or Third) Order of the Discalced Carmelites.
I have only just begun the process of attempting to discern whether or not I have a call to Carmel. Vocations are rather like love affairs, the question always arises - Is she in love with him or is she in love with being in love? Being in love with the idea of being in love is much easier than being in love with a person. Love is beautiful. People are messy and complicated. Vocations are romantic, living a vocation is a constant dying to self - sometimes messy and often unpleasant.
In his Rule, St. Benedict wrote that when accepting a novice the concern must be whether he truly seeks God and whether he shows eagerness for the Opus Dei-the "Work of God," (AKA the Liturgy of the Hours) and for obedience and trials (RB 58.7). This holds true for discerning a Carmelite vocation as well, the basis for contemplative prayer is desiring God, and seeking his Face, and in the Secular Order the major hours of the Office are prayed daily. Daily Mass (to the extent possible) is required as is 30 minutes of mental prayer each day.
It is my thought to jot down my thoughts as I journey through this process. Please feel free to comment, just so I know I'm not alone here and talking to myself.